Perspectives, Sexuality and Finding our Way through for a Healthy Culture for All

Yoga, body art and movement videos and pictures are often shared to teach technique and educate people in the realm it is in. However in social media when the external world sees women in videos and pictures it becomes something else. It could become art, porn, inappropriate, a fantasy and so many other things. You see our minds guide us to see what we know. I can understand seeing this in other ways than what humans made it for, but I always believe in being respectful to each other and learning each others intents and boundaries. So a beautiful connection can be made and experienced of each relationship we are blessed with to the people we are connected to in the world. Everyone offers magic in their unique way when we treat them well for what they are…

Our minds are educated to see certain ways from our life experiences, teachings (Cultural, Society or Family). It is not that a person is or isn’t what you see. It is more important to understand that it is the respect we hold when we connect to another that is most important of all. We must understand it is important for us to feel all we do, but we must remember we have, to find where the safe places are to express and with whom (everyone enjoys different expressions).

It is okay for us to be turned on. It is a part of being human. Sexuality is a very fun and healthy part of a whole human life experience. We create children and healthy relationships with it. But how we use it in society today is not so healthy. It is okay for us to not like something someone displays. It is okay for us to misunderstand each other. It is okay to be human and different to each other and act differently and enjoy different experiences or turn ons.. However it is not okay to shame or judge or hurt another if we do not see eye to eye….

Because if we respond as above we miss the chance we can change this explicit world and degrading world for women in regards to their sexuality. And also men’s in regards to feeling okay about being sexual too and having thoughts. We need to help each other by educating each other with kindness and compassion. We need to remind people there is no shame in being attracted to people, but we must work on self control of our own thoughts and actions to respond in healthier ways depending on who we talk with and what their boundaries are.

Dressing a certain way does not prevent women being viewed as sexual objects. I lived in Saudi Arabia and I was at a 7/11. The men in Saudi often do not have sex until married. One woman fully covered head to toe in her Abaya (who was a full figured woman). Personally I could not see anything, but I watched a man look at her like she was a piece of meat because he could see bumps in her abaya. It was not her clothes that were the issue, it was the culture views of women and the education for mens responses given.

The challenge is the world is teaching us women are just sexual objects or they are there to be sexualised when looking a certain way, but we are not just this, nor should we see this one story. We should try to change this and it cannot be solved by making rules to cover us.

The responsibility lies in each of us men and women understanding women are not responsible for the crude cultural teachings or how another reacts to her body. The truth we all face is we are all regularly aroused and distracted, men and women but trying to control each other to protect each other from sexual thoughts or misappropriated response does not protect us. We are sexual beings but the truth seems to ask us….. In the moment to moment details of our daily living, truth asks us to pay attention and to act with integrity and respect the first time, so you never have to go back and apologise or make a new agreement. Truth is the dance where the rules and certainties change with the circumstances and what we as humans need to learn is too dance with each response and circumstance with more integrity. Not thinking each moment or person is the same or requires one rule. Instead allowing us to seek truth which rarely seems to ask the easier choice of us.